It wasn’t a long time ago when I was being introduced to facebook. For me it was just another portal of social media as I was already on orkut; yes long forgotten orkut. I have seen and in fact experienced the evolution of social online interaction through eras of IRC chat clients, messengers, which were the popular choices back in 90s to early 2000s. The person who introduced me to facebook during my masters in 2008 was not a big fan of orkut or perhaps he was a visionary, who could read the consistent failure of google when it came to social media platforms.
I am not sure about everyone but majority of us who had the privilege and Pentium power in same time span (i.e. late 90s to early 2000s) were almost running a parallel life. They had unfamiliar online friends and also the known ones from whereabouts of real life which of course had its own pros and cons. One of the biggest charms of facebook was that one could find the old acquaintances and long lost friends. And believe me finding the old mates from childhood/school was an experience similar to finding a lost treasure. It was indeed rejoicing.
I won’t write about the negatives that had been the part of social media but would focus on a different aspect of negativity amongst us here in this very blog. Social networking became stronger with time aided by smart phone revolution; whatsapp, tango, skype; you name it and you can have it with as many features as you can dream of and as many emoticons as you can have the moods by themselves. To be honest, interacting online at times is more pleasant than the in-person meetings as some people are more gifted with their expressions when it comes to writing. But the sad truth is that people can also hurt you, much bitterly with their written arsenal than they actually can in their real lives. Written variants of speech can also be very confusing, you take a smiley out of the message and it changes the entire intent of the message, same is the case with putting it at the end of the rude message.
We are humans and we do perceive events and ideas differently. Everyone has a different take on different events. Difference of opinion, if leading to better ideas, is indeed good but unfortunately it has been bringing out the evil inside us; the bitterness, and the acrimony that has been soaked in for quite long through several phases of life. There always had been a debate about how good it is not to impose your ideas on others and respect other’s point of view but Facebook comments however are a dangerous threat to that. Even the most moderate and patient individuals can lose it and start getting tenacious over their stand, for what they are saying is nothing but utterly correct.
We socialize and make ‘de facto’ groups based on motives even if they are not intentional. Some of you might disagree but one definitely needs a common interest for friendships/relationships to prevail and flourish unless you are arranged married to one. Gamers would understand this more than anyone as they do make friends in huge quantities playing a common on-liner like Mafia Wars or Criminal Case etc. What I heard long ago and recently experienced is that mutual interest is even surpassed by mutual hatred. Common enemy surely can bring you more closer than having a common friend/interest.
Most of this year has been wasted in political non sense and sit-ins. At one hand we have a flag bearer of change who is against the systems being in the system while outside the system for the system to continue by changing the system and replacing the system through renewal of system etc. Yes, he is as confused and twisted as my statement here. On the other hand we a have a businessman prime minister who has a reputation of building mega projects so that he can bribe the people with their own money and continue to increase his family wealth through nepotism.
Regardless of who likes whom and what political awareness it has blessed us with, my point is at what cost and in what way on social media it has affected us? To me politics has turned into a game of likes and dislikes more completely than ever before. Political rivalries are as severe as religious contentions and difference of opinion is synonymous to personal animosities therefore should be avoided as much as possible in public. Some of you would again disagree here that debate for difference of opinion is a good way to handle matters but social media and social interaction can worsen it or one should say that social relationships/friendships can easily be ruined (and are ruined) these days over the very same social platforms.
In my perspective, Facebook and social media was supposed to make me happy as I was spending my personal time for my leisure, entertainment or awareness. Why should it turn into a battle ground just because someone out there has a fragile ego or poor temperament and he happens to disagree with my perspective? You will find a wide variety of people who consider their utmost responsibility to comment on everything as if they are auditor general of facebook and they have nothing to do except to ensure everything is going as per their way of thinking and they have the sole responsibility to enlighten people with their self-proclaimed intellect. I am also guilty of sharing content which may hurt many, so it is not totally the fault of others to come and comment on that post. But wait! Where is that chant of respect the difference of opinion?
Platforms like facebook combine several type of social contacts like family, school fellows, college mates, university buddies, work colleagues, friends, relatives and acquaintances. So they mostly watch the same content shared by you. The comment of one of them may offend you on platform (just like in public) which may appear unharmful in person. These differences may lead to a point where good friendships may turn into bad rivalries.
A fight over facebook which may be a free entertainment to many of viewers can really dry you out of your positive energy. Most of us may have gone through this torture for once at least that we had an argument (treated like a war no matter what you claim it to be or how peaceful you try to pretend) and had to cancel their important work/assignments just to carry out on that fight. Initially I thought unfollowing that (different opinionated) friend was good enough but some people don’t stop. Despite of their ethical claims they don’t even know when to draw the line and when to stop. They almost cross every limit of indecency and misbehave. Calling people with fragile egos or fat egos and declaring them biased just because they don’t like the way you think are common traits of modern times. To make matters worse they even start tagging you in posts which you literally hate.
As a conclusion I saw some people unfriending me and I lost many acquaintances and even with regret of losing them life certainly became better. And I admit that I have unfriended many and I don’t think it’s a bad cost to pay for regaining the peace of your mind. This is your time, you spend it on facebook or any other social media platforms. You are spending your precious time for joy, not to make it a blood boiling experience and causing contentions in friendships. When facebook wasn’t there, what did we use to do? Meeting an old acquaintance or friend somewhere out was always a pleasant surprise. I believe that when you unfriend the ones who don’t know when to stop or when to draw the line; it gets better. It is indeed a better choice to have a probability of meeting them somewhere out of the blue in a decent way than to keep them on facebook and keep accumulating the grudge. It’s your time so cherish it with joy, you dislike something, unfollow it and if they mess with you by tagging or poking nose in every post, just eliminate them from facebook lineup with no hard feelings.
Blaming the tools like facebook is not the way; just like you can’t blame life for the choices you made. Life gives a chance to everyone at least once in your lives so make maximum out of it. Stay happy and spread happiness 🙂
By the time I may have published this piece of work, things may have unfolded to you. Yes! I am talking about the on-going drama/concert/dharna in Islamabad’s arena of Red Zone. Procrastination is one word which we can all relate to in some possible way. As a lazy person I love to delay things as much as I can but government took it to a next level, is quite an understatement but wait; it was never in the hands of government in the first place.
I am not sure if we have learnt our lessons or not. But I have learnt some positives for sure. Deadline after deadline after deadline is one of the most teasing and torturous punishment one can suffer from. Like many other pseudo intellects who un-wantedly have turned into political commentators would have said upon these deadlines that “I would never do that! Again 24 hours? Again 48 hours?” But guys one thing is for sure, that we all have realized that promises are meant to be kept if you are human, and meant to be broken if you are a politician. So next time your wife asks you to take her to her parents, it is your call that you want to be a human or a politician.
People are bored; anchors, journalists and media person have been heavily abused. So again mentioning what actually had happened in last couple of weeks would again bring out the monster amongst many of the readers as it may go against their views and I may be accused of blasphemy for saying ill words for their political Gods.
There are many idiots like me who wonder that why Ibless didn’t prostrated before Adam and why can’t Imran Khan (IK) and Nawaz Sharif (NS) could shake hands and jointly serve the nation. To me it always meant that one is a better legislator (before he started his container walk in heat of August) and other is a better developer of mega projects and has a reputation of reviving economy. But alas! These thoughts are more improbable than finding a mermaid in Rawal Lake. Many people found their mermaids at IK’s dharna 🙂
For many people it was a CHANGE, they were looking for. IK proved to be the hope for them. He motivated the uninterested youth and invited them in politics. That brought out a very positive change in itself. Turn out for elections was good if not extraordinary. With a mandate a government was formed. A system started to perform slowly and gradually. Economy started to build up. Stock market revived. Karachi target killing stopped. Drone attacks were ceased. Weekly blasts on SUI pipeline near bugti tribe vanished. Mega projects started across the country. Power Plants inaugurated and foundation stone of over dozen was set. That’s the change which this country deserved but it was coming slow and gradual. And then again that happened what had been the fate of this country. To be played in the hands of establishment.
Tahir ul Qadri (TUQ), Imran Khan both announced their respective rallies and marched down to the beautiful Islamabad to turn it into filth in the name of their right to protest. They somehow forgot about the rights of residents of Islamabad to live in peaceful conditions. Their language and demands were mixed in a strange and confused way. There was one thing everyone in favor of. Firstly the proper and unbiased investigation of Model Town incident in which over a dozen casualties occurred and secondly that electoral reforms should be made and if some discrepancies are found then culprits should be prosecuted and such events should not occur in future. Demands were justified but then there was a stubborn child who wanted PM to resign before any investigation or before any of these demands could be met. To me this demand was pathetic as IK seemed to be the biggest hurdle in the way of his own demands.
I generally try to put myself in others shoes to feel what it actually means and estimate the experience they are going through. As a teacher, if someone alleges that I am biased and I have done injustice in marking the papers, what would my response be? I would show him the paper. If I have submitted the papers in exam cell then I can take him to exam cell and ask them to show him his papers. Demands seem to be fine upto this point. But what if the student asks me to resign, calls entire exam cell culprit and demands VC of university to step down and only then agrees to get his paper re checked; it would be a complete analogy to what has been going on.
Let me change the course, there is a friend of mine who happens to be quite resourceful in news and one week ago he told me that NS won’t worth more than Deputy Commissioner and IK will meet his political death for quite a while if not on permanent basis. I was surprised but now at this time between 28th and 29th of August we have heard that both clowns have announced that army has decided to act as a guarantor and require 24 more hours. All I could say was R.I.P democracy.
N league members could be making merry that their PM is not stepping down. They might be the flag bearers of the fascination that they survived marshal law and democracy has prevailed. On the other hand IK can claim that he made government begging on their knees and slapped them around and are victorious but for any sane brain I would ask them to take a moment and think what has actually happened and who is the real beneficiary?
This government came with both a personal grudge as well as a plan that they will make Musharraf an example for others and will ensure that army never intervenes the democratic process ever in future. Mr prime minister! one smooth transition of democratic governments does not mean that they have matured enough to take on the ruthless bull of establishment. Army had been criticized and called boots for decades for intervention and throwing away democracy in huge chasms. No matter which party you belong to or how impartial you are; you cannot deny the following facts which are
1) All pending bills of army had been cleared (round 150 million)
2) Army is respected for not intervening
3) Army is praised for being impartial and unbiased (especially didn’t take government’s side)
4) Army is not hungry for power
5) Everyone trusts army
6) Army avoided massive casualties by not using force
7) Army despite being busy in zarb-e-azb operation still managed national security issues
8) Politicians are not capable of handling their own issues
9) Government is on its knees and will always be looking at army if they are smiling or upset with them
10) Only army was taking care of IDPs while power politics was going on
11) No one will question waziristan operation ever again
From financial benefits to wonder face of the nation, they had it all. IK due to desperation and NS due to arrogance and nepotism gave it away. I will blame IK more than NS because he was used as a tool. A man of many capabilities who raised hopes and was a good competition disappointed many. He created the balance in dynamics of political system of country and he gave it away. NS was already doing many silly blunders in his legislative policies which could have dethroned him. But IK’s desperation to become PM made him nothing more than a tool. Worst part is that he and his followers still don’t realize this fact. I think instead of this drama, all three forces chiefs should be given permanent resident-ship in parliament with complete authority to make a dummy PM from anywhere.
One should not be surprised that model town incident was all part of plan and establishment killed innocents/rebels for their cause. The case won’t be resolved soon and a threat will always be upon sitting PM and CM as it would be another string in the hands of establishment.
Army has it all, I must say the great management of establishment, they had it previously too but they have it all now. PM and CM will stay and won’t step down as weak PM and CM are what establishment created and they won’t let them go away. Democracy has died today again. Our politicians gave it away. Their fault is that one was stubbornly stupid and other was a dangerous moron used as a tool, and they never thought of bigger picture and never attempted to outsmart establishment for atleast once for a change. Establishment will keep creating leaders and consuming them with time if and when needed.
May my fears be proven wrong but by tomorrow you will see that PM wont step down and the concerts would be over soon. And revolutionists would be back to schools, colleges, universities and offices again in their McDonalds life which they perceive with their DSLRs but welcome to an official behind the scene marshal law.